At what age did people all over the world have their first night?
Durex, the eldest brother, made a global survey and found that the average age of men and women’s first sexual experience was17.3 years old.
17.3 years oldThe age of ordinary high school students.
When you are still an ignorant problem solver, you have been abandoned by your peers.
Is it too early?
On the other hand, aboveboard sex education came too late.
On October 17 this year, the National People’s Congress will "for the first time"sex education"The word is written into the Law of People’s Republic of China (PRC) on the Protection of Minors.
Prior to this, the obscure "adolescent education" was still used in laws and policy documents.
This is a great progress, but it illustrates a long-standing problem-
We still dare not talk about sex boldly.
We are always coy about the elephant in this room.
Don’t talk about it, does it not exist?
People in the room won’t mistake the elephant leg for a pillar and get hurt by it?
Japanese TV series17.3 About SexThat’s what we talked about.
More than 4000 people in Douban scored 9.1.
Different from the hot American TV series [Sex Study Room] in recent two years, this drama fits the relatively conservative gender culture in Asia and looks more resonant.
It is also a story about girls wavering and growing up between sex and love. sisterhood, who knows and supports each other, is very powerful.
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The main characters are three 17-year-old female high school students, all of whom have a little knowledge of sex.
Or, I don’t understand at all.
The girl Yuliang is one of them.
Her boyfriend of a month sent her an invitation:
"Do you want to come to my house the day after tomorrow? There is no one at home."
Even though she saw the age of her first night published on the website, she was not psychologically prepared.
"17.3 years old, don’t you think it’s too early?"
"Will it hurt the first time?"
"Glass into the body so painful? Certainly not. "
But on second thought, it’s good to be an adult at the age of 17.3.
She prepared according to the instructions on the web page:
Choose a complete set of light-colored underwear that boys will like, and even shave off the body hair of private parts.
When she arrived at her boyfriend’s house, as soon as Yun Liang sat down, her boyfriend drew the curtains without saying anything and pushed her down eagerly.
Regardless of her wishes, she rudely took off her carefully prepared underwear and threw it on the ground.
"I feel like an object."
Yun Liang was afraid and disappointed, so she picked up her underwear and fled.
When she came to school the next day, she found that everyone knew about it.
It turns out that everything is just a bet made by my boyfriend and friends, betting that he can get rid of Yun Liang within one month.
And told the story about her shaving her body hair.
In embarrassment, Yun Liang ran to the dark biological room and cried.
Suddenly the curtains in the room were pulled open and the sun shone in.
Asahi, a usually taciturn male classmate, came to comfort her, saying that those boys were idiots who learned sex from AV and didn’t know how to respect girls at all.
Also published some opinions about "why girls cater to boys":
"Even depilation, also the boy to do. After all, the taste is big and the hair is thick and hard. "
Wonderful!
Yun Liang seriously recalled the original idea of getting rid of it, not because he really wanted to do it.
Catering to boyfriends is also misleading because of reading strange web pages.
It turned out that everyone didn’t understand the noise, so she decided to learn more about sex.
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The other two girls also have their own confusion.
"Do we have to have sex?"
Girls have never liked anyone since they were young, and being kissed by boys will disgust and vomit.
She entered her "symptoms" on the Internet, and the result was-
No sexual love.
She came to the school library to check the information, but she couldn’t find it at all.
Finally, the biology teacher found out her own book and lent it to her.
After popularizing the knowledge of asexual love, the teacher told her,"It’s nothing strange to be different from others.".
Contrary to Xiao, the girl Nai has dated five boyfriends, each of whom is the only thrill.
The fifth one she met on dating software, and her profile says "26-year-old, IT male".
After you nai was with him, he contracted a kind ofsexually transmitted disease.
It was Yun Liang who found it in the book according to her symptoms.
I didn’t know until I went to the hospital for examination that the disease might be contagious even if I wore a condom.
It turned out that this boyfriend used a fake identity, but he was actually izakaya’s little brother, and he was sleeping with several people at the same time.
Nai decisively broke up and continued to invest in the next love.
She made a decision that she would go to the health center for a check-up before going out with every boyfriend in the future.
When the three girls encounter sexual problems, they all rely on themselves or friends to solve them.
It turns out that girls can also enjoy sex.
It turns out that sex is as diverse as people, and it is not surprising that it is different from others.
It turns out that condoms are not absolutely safe.
The school didn’t teach them relevant knowledge and didn’t provide environmental support.
Contact without knowing it is likely to get hurt.
The three of them were lucky to get effective guidance and help in time.
But wouldn’t it be better if someone told them this common sense from the beginning?
If you are troubled, the way you think of is to explore and discuss with your friends. This is the real "sex study room".
03
Sex education in schools is completely blank, and parents are also silent.
Yun Liang’s idea of virginity had something to do with her mother.
Yun Liang’s mother forbade her puppy love, which was very strict.
When you come back from school later, you will be questioned if you send a message to your friends.
Put a bear’s mating image on TV, and immediately switch to the weather forecast with the remote control.
It’s very much like the experience when we watched TV with our parents when we were young, and we had to pour water when we met the kissing scene.
I don’t think Yuliang’s skirt is too short, so I pull it down by hand.
So when Yun Liang found out that such a mother could masturbate, the whole person was shocked.
In the drawer of her mother’s bedroom, she saw the vibrator that her friend said.
It was the first time that she knew that women would do such a thing, which was unacceptable at the moment.
My mother, who can’t even say the word "physiological period" at home, doesn’t know how to explain it to her.
The relationship between the two fell into an awkward freezing point.
Finally, the biology teacher took her to the "women’s products" store, and the history of popular science vibrators made her understand that female masturbation is a natural thing.
Yun Liang later went to the store by herself, bought a new vibrator for her mother and quietly put it back in the room.
I also took care of my mother’s face and helped her turn over the article lightly.
Are there many cases where sex is taboo at home and the result is a rollover?
There is no lack of such questions in Zhihu:
It is not wise to cover up the obvious things in daily life.
Things that children should not know will be known by them sooner or later.
Knowing is not terrible, but misunderstanding and a little knowledge.
Even when a child is hurt, the first reaction is to hide it from his parents.
The girl mentioned above, Nai, was afraid to swipe her medical insurance card at home when she was in the hospital.
Her medical expenses were paid by three girls together.
It’s good to have friends’ support, but isn’t home called harbor and backing?
At this time, can the family provide support?
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This may be too difficult for some parents.
I dare not talk about sex at home, and I am not allowed to talk about it at school.
In 2017, a Hangzhou parent saw the sex education book issued by the school, and thought it was too explicit, so he sent Weibo to boycott it.
Some people also questioned,"Knowing sex so early will make children have sex too early?"
This is actually a misunderstanding of sex education.
The purpose of sex education is to protect.
Avoid boys and girls who don’t understand sex being pitied.
In the play, Yun Liang’s junior high school friend Cheng Mei had sex with her boyfriend during the "safety period" and accidentally got pregnant.
By the time the test came out, it had been more than 22 weeks.
In Japanese law, abortion is not allowed after 22 weeks of pregnancy.
The school forced her to drop out of school, which meant that she was farther away from her dream of being a teacher in college.
How hard can it be for an underage single mother?
In the final analysis, she became a victim because she failed to get the correct sexual knowledge.
Actually,The content of sex education is not only the knowledge of sex and reproductive health.
Also includes the rightPositive attitude, sincere communication, respect for others and learning to ask for help.And other skills.
beLife education based on sex.
Professor Liu Wenli, who compiled this controversial reading, said that people’s desire to explore the body is innate.
So sex has nothing to be ashamed of and can’t be said.
Give sex disenchantment and treat it as a normal thing like the weather.
Know it well enough so that you won’t be hurt by it and taste its sweetness.
All this starts with talking about sex boldly.
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